Strong social bonds, a feeling of inclusion, and continuous support from friends can extend your life and make your transition to the Power 20 Method easier. In the near term, find a friend who will support you through the first 30 days. In the long term, join a social group or club that meets regularly.
How to coach
Behavioral scientists suggest that the most effective way to elicit change in someone is to ignore bad behavior and reward good behavior. Below is the Power 20 Method method for getting the best results.
Ask these questions:
- How are you feeling today?
- Did you plan what you’re going to eat today?
- Did you do your workout?
- Did you check on (name the person they are coaching) today?
- Will you get to sleep tonight?
What to say if they’re failing:
- Ignore the components they are failing at, but praise them for any aspects they have succeeded in.
- Focus on actionable changes. If the person has to work late tonight and can’t get to sleep on time, suggest they take a nap tomorrow.
- Sometimes people just need to be heard and given sympathy, followed by encouragement. Give them what they need!
What to say or do if they’re succeeding:
- Compliment them on the success.
- Occasionally reward them. E-cards, online congratulations, cooking a meal for them are all great ways to reward someone who is doing a great job.
- Be generous in rewarding and complementing.
Celebrate the wins.
Find ways to celebrate each week’s progress together. By celebrating milestones together, your friends and you will create a culture of supporting one another in maintaining healthy habits.
Join a group.
The power of friendship and community is extraordinary. Having a confidant, looking forward to social events, and being included in a group can all help us fight off stress and cognitive deterioration. Being around other people can also boost our immune system. For these reasons, the Power 20 Method recommends that you join a group. Below are some examples:
- Sports team
- Religious group
- Choir or Band
- Gardening Group
- Game-playing group
- Dance group
The best groups are the ones that involve socializing, are fun, and do not center around unhealthy habits like drinking or smoking. Try to engage with the group at least once a week.
Let’s now talk about the final important section on sleep.